HOW TO BECOME ATTRACTIVE.
The first thing Adam gave Eve was an identity. A woman comes to a man seeking an identity. She will even change her name for you. She will be called mother when she finds you. Too bad if she comes to a man who does not know who he is or who she is. She wants you to affirm who she believes she is. She wants you to mould her self esteem not destroy it. She wants you to call her something she has never been called. She hopes that you can look into her soul, find out her worth and call it out. She wants you to find the queen in her and call her out. She wants you to change her name to sweetheart, darling and so on.
A woman wants security from you. She wants to settle especially in heart and mind that she is loved and valued and she will never be uncovered. She comes looking for cover. Her favourite position is when she is locked in the arms of a man who values her and loves her above all else. Can you secure her? Can her dreams find security in your arms? Can you cover her or you are just interested in uncovering her? She longs to know that she has security of tenure: that she will never be kicked out. Can you grant her that while you are eyeing her and two or more others? The greatest protection you can offer her is to protect her from yourself. If she knows that her pain will never come from you she will crown you king over her. The greatest pain that can be inflicted comes from those who are supposed to protect us. Yet, how will you offer her security if you are insecure yourself?
She moves by hearing and instinct. She is lured by what she hears. She is looking for a person who calls her queen but she is listening to your heart not your mouth. Does your heart cry out for her or it's just your mouth? Her instinct is more powerful than her hearing ability. She can sense betrayal long before it happens but sometimes she loves you so much that she silences her instinct. If you go ahead to betray her after she has silenced her instinct she will hate you for it.
A woman is called so because of her womb. She has the power to take seed and conceive from it, incubate it in her womb and give you the same seed when it is multiplied and perfected. This is not just in the literal sense. Have you seen men who seemed like they could amount to nothing become so prosperous after marriage? They were just seeds or carried in them the seed of prosperity until they found the right incubator. But it is not just the good in you that she can incubate. She will incubate anything you give her and give it back to you when it is multiplied. Don't give her insults. Don't give her complaints. Don't give her frustration. She will incubate it for months or years and will unleash it on you when it is perfected. Give her hope, esteem, confidence, inspiration. She will perfect it and give it back.
The greatest thing a man is looking for is the presence of God although in most cases he is not aware of it. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who carries the presence of God. She is attractive and perfect in every way and the man can rarely express what it is about her that is attractive because it is not physical. Such a woman is attractive because she is submitted. She is submitted to God and men like submitted women. She is attractive because she speaks with grace. She has found grace and therefore the man finds grace in her. She is attractive because she knows how to love. She loves her creator and will not find it hard to love people and him. If she loves the King of kings she will love her king. She knows how to crown a King. She is attractive because her skin glows with glory. He is not attracted to the skin or its physical glow but its spiritual glow. The man can never pinpoint what exactly attracts him about her. She can have numerous physical flaws but the glory of God covers them. You see the woman found the man in the presence of God but they were kicked out of that presence after sinning against God. He longs for God's presence more than the woman. He longs for God more than he cares to admit and definitely more than he knows.
When he finds a woman who carries that presence and glory he scores twice at the same time. The greatest tragedy for the man is a woman who draws the glory and presence of God from him. Did you see how he flees after fornication because the glory that attracted him has departed? He is not fleeing from you. He is pursuing that glory that he had seen in you. Most often that not, if he fornicates with a woman who doesn't carry the glory, he rarely flees. If you knew what attracted him to you you would not allow him to take you to bed before he marries you. As soon as it is gone, he will lose interest.
A woman with God is attractive because she has respect. She respects and honours God and authority. She is attractive because she listens. Faith comes by hearing and if she has it then she is a good listener. She is attractive because she is patient. Walking with God takes patience. If she has been walking with God then she has developed patience. She is attractive because she has a clean heart and soul. She has been washed with the blood of Jesus and she has a pure heart and soul.
The man will never know for certain why he is attracted to her but he will always come back to her.
A woman wants security from you. She wants to settle especially in heart and mind that she is loved and valued and she will never be uncovered. She comes looking for cover. Her favourite position is when she is locked in the arms of a man who values her and loves her above all else. Can you secure her? Can her dreams find security in your arms? Can you cover her or you are just interested in uncovering her? She longs to know that she has security of tenure: that she will never be kicked out. Can you grant her that while you are eyeing her and two or more others? The greatest protection you can offer her is to protect her from yourself. If she knows that her pain will never come from you she will crown you king over her. The greatest pain that can be inflicted comes from those who are supposed to protect us. Yet, how will you offer her security if you are insecure yourself?
She moves by hearing and instinct. She is lured by what she hears. She is looking for a person who calls her queen but she is listening to your heart not your mouth. Does your heart cry out for her or it's just your mouth? Her instinct is more powerful than her hearing ability. She can sense betrayal long before it happens but sometimes she loves you so much that she silences her instinct. If you go ahead to betray her after she has silenced her instinct she will hate you for it.
A woman is called so because of her womb. She has the power to take seed and conceive from it, incubate it in her womb and give you the same seed when it is multiplied and perfected. This is not just in the literal sense. Have you seen men who seemed like they could amount to nothing become so prosperous after marriage? They were just seeds or carried in them the seed of prosperity until they found the right incubator. But it is not just the good in you that she can incubate. She will incubate anything you give her and give it back to you when it is multiplied. Don't give her insults. Don't give her complaints. Don't give her frustration. She will incubate it for months or years and will unleash it on you when it is perfected. Give her hope, esteem, confidence, inspiration. She will perfect it and give it back.
The greatest thing a man is looking for is the presence of God although in most cases he is not aware of it. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who carries the presence of God. She is attractive and perfect in every way and the man can rarely express what it is about her that is attractive because it is not physical. Such a woman is attractive because she is submitted. She is submitted to God and men like submitted women. She is attractive because she speaks with grace. She has found grace and therefore the man finds grace in her. She is attractive because she knows how to love. She loves her creator and will not find it hard to love people and him. If she loves the King of kings she will love her king. She knows how to crown a King. She is attractive because her skin glows with glory. He is not attracted to the skin or its physical glow but its spiritual glow. The man can never pinpoint what exactly attracts him about her. She can have numerous physical flaws but the glory of God covers them. You see the woman found the man in the presence of God but they were kicked out of that presence after sinning against God. He longs for God's presence more than the woman. He longs for God more than he cares to admit and definitely more than he knows.
When he finds a woman who carries that presence and glory he scores twice at the same time. The greatest tragedy for the man is a woman who draws the glory and presence of God from him. Did you see how he flees after fornication because the glory that attracted him has departed? He is not fleeing from you. He is pursuing that glory that he had seen in you. Most often that not, if he fornicates with a woman who doesn't carry the glory, he rarely flees. If you knew what attracted him to you you would not allow him to take you to bed before he marries you. As soon as it is gone, he will lose interest.
A woman with God is attractive because she has respect. She respects and honours God and authority. She is attractive because she listens. Faith comes by hearing and if she has it then she is a good listener. She is attractive because she is patient. Walking with God takes patience. If she has been walking with God then she has developed patience. She is attractive because she has a clean heart and soul. She has been washed with the blood of Jesus and she has a pure heart and soul.
The man will never know for certain why he is attracted to her but he will always come back to her.
